It’s come to my attention that not just laboring mothers need a “happy place,” some place – real or imaginary – to escape mentally when what is real is overbearing. Sometimes what we have to deal with is too much, and we need an immediate OUT.
I remember guiding my childbirth classes through such exercises, hoping to give them another tool for pain management. Labor is painful; use what you can, and the more options you have lined up, the better. When the physical demands start to overwhelm, it’s okay to put mind over matter.
Close your eyes.
Visualize your most favorite place in the world, down to the smell . . . feel . . . taste . . . look . . . and sound of it.
Have your loved one whisper about it in your ears or just hold your hand and be with you.
Before you know it, a minute has passed. The pain subsides. You might even look forward to the next contraction so you can go back to that magical place. Maybe not.
Yesterday, in the office, we took turns, the three of us present, to share where we would go given carte blanche. Where would we go? What would we do? Apparently we would scatter across the states and the globe, doing something we’d love or have always wanted to do, being with whomever we chose.
“I’m happier just thinking about it,” one woman said.
Maybe that’s inevitable. listen to what your heart wants, let the mind pay attention, feeding it a little detail, and see what happens.
Even today on Facebook during my lunchbreak, I saw a friend post about her happy place, and in the comments I read how other friends were joining her! We are attracted to what is good, no? Take an everyday, mundane chore, and let yourself use the time to take a vacation. Take others with you. Enjoy it for the moment it lasts, and be happy.
Escapist? Yes. But for me, a moment to dream is not a wasteful use of time. I have dreams. There is so much beauty in the world. I need to remember this when life bogs me down, heart and soul. There is so much more to life than what I can see or even imagine in any given moment, and most of that is good.
For a quick reminder, I have a postcard of a German castle surrounded by mountains and trees in autumn color. It works. 🙂