Can your friends and family see you coming from far away just by what you’re wearing? As soon as you start talking on the phone, does the person on the other end of the line know it’s you? Do people feel comfortable in your home, if for no other reason than because you are comfortable there?
You can take style surveys all day, but when it comes down to it, only you know what speaks to your soul. You know what makes you comfortable, what makes you feel like a queen, and only you know what makes you feel like . . . well, what makes you feel really badly. So, why waste your time? Rather, let’s take some time to find what echoes the sentiments that is the music of our being.
How? Here’s an example. Go through your closet. Are you really going to lose weight? Would you even wear that if you did? When’s the last time you wore it? If you didn’t wear it last season, you’re not going to wear it this one. Does it make you feel loved and beautiful? GIVE IT AWAY!!! You have to give to receive, and the more you do it, the easier it is. Now, when blessings and opportunities come your way, fill your closet only with what you truly need and only with items (from undergarments to clothes to shoes) that make your heart sing. Now, when you wake up in the morning, you’ll have lots to choose from, and you’ll be dressed in a style that suits you . . . if you’re honest with yourself. No one but you knows if you’re being truly honest, but everyone will know if you’re comfortable and confident.
When I was in high school, I bought Levi’s at a thrift store and packages of white pocket T-shirts. Jeans and T-shirts and Birkenstocks. That was my favorite outfit. Four kids later, I still love jeans and a white T, but jeans right now fit a little too snug at the waist. I feel more beautiful in a flowing skirt and pretty shirt, and I have a few other outfits I love. Comfort for me is key to my style, not fashion.
What about accessories? For me, I only have a few pairs of earrings, each with their own meaning and an energy they give me for that day. Every necklace that I’ve had and worn because it meant so much has broken or been broken. I figured I was too attached, and it was its own lesson. Everything we wear carries a message with it, offers a window into our being, even if on some days the meaning isn’t very deep (i.e., “these were on sale at the store and match this shirt”).
As for your personal life style, you know your disposition. Are you optimistic? Sincere? A pessimist? A cynic? Do you prefer Victorian or contemporary? Intelligent? Practical? A ditz? (I know, some days vary!) Do you reflect this in your voice, your expressions? I don’t have to ask if this plays into your relationships.
I’ve asked a lot of questions, but really there’s only one here. How well do we know ourselves? Our true self. The one that when you come to end of all your days, you know that this is who you are, who you’ve really been in every moment. May you live fully into that being. Can we be so honest with ourselves?