I knew I would be going with the kids and my mother-in-law on a little vacation, but I expected to take some work with me. I did take my laptop and some paper work I need to do. But wouldn’t you know it. I couldn’t get the wireless to work, and by the end of the day I was nearly too tired to think clearly.
Sometimes you have to take time off for what it is. TIME OFF.
Of course, my maternal on-duty sign is stuck in the
position; that’s to be
expected. After all, the vacation was something more for the kids — amusement park, go carts, bumper boats, too much sugar. Summer vacations are usually for kids, designed to give them something to look forward to and to have something to say they did this summer when they go back to school. In the next couple of years, I hope to do something a little less conventional and a lot more memorable.
My time off came in the form of not having time or energy to put toward my external commitments. No blogging, no e-mailing, no calling, no writing, no organizing, no cleaning, and no cooking (well, those last two fall under the maternal hat and the break from which I am grateful!). I gave my kids nearly 100% of my attention, and I notice that while they didn’t act much differently, by the end of the day and the end of the vacation, I notice a difference.
I’m the type of mother that has to do more than just mother my children. My commitments also lie outside my family and mostly nurture myself. Call me selfish if you will. I’m okay with that, especially if it means that during the time I am focused on my kids it makes me a better quality mother. Consider your commitments, the quality of your mothering. What makes you a better mother? Do you need time to step back and evaluate? What best rejuvenates and nurtures you?
So, after a bit of time away, I come back to my laptop, my pile of notebooks and am ready to get re-centered and aligned. I have some organizing to do today . . . after the phone calls, grocery shopping, lunch and vet visit, of course, yet before an evening meeting.
All in a day’s work for a stay-at-home-mom.